I have been seeing this word come up lately when it comes to posts about children with Autism. These posts manly come from individuals on the Spectrum. They say compliance training should not be done on this population. That it completely takes away their right to say no. These individuals are usually ones that harbor sour feelings towards a society and world that does not understand them and one they have yet to try to understand.
Before I get into this I am someone who growing up learned the hard way of this word, and my compliance now is based off numerous interactions with authority figures who both were right and who were wrong. To me growing up, compliance was based off of who was right, not what an authority figure said for me to do. This thinking not only got me in trouble a lot of the times but it made me realize the harsh truth of compliance.
The harsh truth is that everybody has to comply to a certain degree or they end up in jail/prison or worse. Whether or not what you think is right or just. Authority figures do not want you to comply just because they say so, but because ultimately it is in their minds what is best for you and what will most likely be what is safest as well. This is not to say to completely comply with everything that an authority figure tells you, but to know that in a messed up world we live in that sometimes it does not matter if something else is right than what you are told.
Compliance is necessary part of learning. If you want to grow as a person, it is necessary. You can not learn of when to comply versus when not to if you never learn to comply in the first place.
Probably over ninety percent of people have had compliance training as a kid, no matter how different you may be from everyone else. If someone wants a degree, they must comply to that institutions rules in order to obtain one. If someone wants a job, they must comply to their bosses wishes. If someone wants to be in a platonic or romantic relationship, they must comply to the wishes of others. If one wants to be free, they must comply to the laws of that land. However, when a person reaches these stages in life, they usually have also been taught when it is not okay to just comply to an authority figures wishes.
Telling people to not have compliance training to an ever growing population will, in the end, ruin so many lives. I was very lucky to be born with the privilege I was born with or else I might not be here today to write about my thoughts and experiences to you all, people reading this, looking to learn more about Autism.
Do I think there are people on the Spectrum not capable of learning the second aspect of compliance? I sure do, but with how the world likes to categorize whose life means more in this world based on numerous option-less charecteristics , I see compliance as a way to keep this population away from harm as much as possible with the people who do understand the second aspect to work on making the world a better and safer place for everyone.
Mark Fleming- Person on the Autism Spectrum